记住六个事实，改善你的人生

最近在网络上看到一篇短文（见下），很有启示，无论对学生还是老师。下面作点解读（并非翻译）并附原文。

事实之一：没人治愈你的伤痛（No One Is Going to Fix You）。

很多人是原因专家，一天到晚为自己找“原因”，外在的原因。其实我们更需反思，往里面找原因。每个人必须为自己的行为负百分百的责任，没人救你，你只能自我救赎！

事实之二：人生从不完美（Life Will Never Be Perfect）

生活中很多人在等待：等天时，等地利，等人和，或等合适的时机，或等合适的情绪，或兼而有之。人生需要等，但更需要的是行动，因为你等不到这样“完美”的时刻！

事实之三：你会面对大量失败（You Might Fail a Lot）

有行动，就会伴随失败，有时很惨，但不要轻易否定自己。我们追求“一杆进洞”，但大多并不如愿。失败是什么？失败其实就是成功的母亲，因为失败意味着改善，屡战屡败意味着持续不断地改善！

事实之四：过去已尘埃落定（The Past Is Already Written）

有行动就有失败，接受它，无需纠结。因为过去是即成事实，它已尘埃落定。保持一颗归零的心，将时间和精力置于当下，因为这才是你部分能控制的。改变始于当下，当下的行动！

事实之五：明天很不确定（Tomorrow Is Not Guaranteed）

当下行动，而不是明天，因为明天有很多意外，包括突然死去。明天没有保证，这是最重要的事实，但亦最易被忽略。抓住最重要的，即刻行动，因为生命非常有限！

事实之六：忙并不一定成功（Just Because You’re “Busy” Doesn’t MeanYou’re Accomplishing Something）。

生活中太多的人来回地奔波，忙的要命，但看不到实质的进展。忙是要讲点技巧的，最大的技巧就是专注（FOCUS），把精力集中到一个焦点上，但这似乎对现代人越来越难[1]

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6 Harsh Truths That Will Improve Your Life

Truth hurts, but someone has to say it. Your life iswhat you make of it and the only person who can help you is yourself. If you’reready to take personal responsibility and improve your life, I invite you toapply these seven harsh truths today.

No One Is Going to Fix You：

If you are waiting for a knight in shining armor togallop into your life and heal your broken heart, you will be waiting forever.The only person who can help you is yourself. Be happy for the other people inyour life, but do not become dependent on them for happiness unlike you like tobe on a never-ending emotional roller coaster that is far beyond the realm ofyour control. Are you alone? No, far from it. But no one is going to fix you, so it is in your best interest to take personal responsibility for your own life. When you do that, you’ll discover you are morepowerful than you ever thought possible.

Life Will Never Be Perfect

If you are waiting for the “right” time to dosomething — pursue self-employment, begin a fitness plan, dive into the datingpool, or move to a new town — you’re going to be waiting forever. There is no such thing as a “right” time to do anything. This reaction is based on your fear-of-change, plain andsimple. If you keep waiting for that mysterious“perfect time to act” (please tell me, when have you ever experienced such athing?), this means you will never actually have to take action and confrontyour fear. Do the scary thing. You will be soglad you did.

You Might Fail (a Lot)

If you attempt to achieve an ambitious new goal, thenit is possible that you will fall on your face while pursuing said goal.Welcome to reality. It’s time to change your thinking about failure. It is nota big, bad thing that you should be frightened of. Failure is a learning opportunity and nothing more. If successful people quit pursuing their goal afterfailing the first time they tried something new, then there would beapproximately zero successful people ever. There is no such thing as a“hole-in-one” in life. Do you want to know how many times I’ve failed? Over ahundred. The only reason I’ve managed to accomplish anything is because I am afirm believer in continuous improvement. If you fail in something, distancefrom the event for a day or two, because agonizing over the problem will notmake it go away (and will make it a lot worse). Read a good book, catch up withsome friends you haven’t seen in a long time, or go on a nature hike. You willbe able to look at the issue with a fresh perspective. After you have donethat, ask yourself: “Why didn’t this work out and how can I do better nexttime?”

The Past Is Already Written

Have you ever made a mistake so monumental that youwish you could go back in time and do it all over again? Join the club. It’scalled being human. I know you might feel immense regret, but beating yourselfup over something that is already done serves no purpose. Shift your attention to the present, where you can take control of your life and move forward into a better future.

Tomorrow Is Not Guaranteed 

Steve Jobs said it best, so I’m going to defer to himfor this harsh truth:

“Remembering thatI’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almosteverything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment orfailure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.”

The next time you catch yourself playing the “I willdo it tomorrow” game, remember that tomorrow is not guaranteed. Traffic accidents, heart attacks, and acts of violence do happen. Live in the present and take action today.

Just Because You’re “Busy” Doesn’t Mean You’re Accomplishing Something

If you like to brag about how great you are atmultitasking, stop it, because you are only kidding yourself. Changing taskswithout rhyme or reason is wasting your productivity, stressing you out, andpossibly causing you to make mistakes. It will probably take you longer tocomplete two tasks that you are switching back-and-forth between than it wouldto complete each one separately. If you want to save time, instead of multitasking, try grouping similar tasks together. Have a bunch of e-mails you need to send? Do them all at once. Have an article or essay you need to write?Get it done before moving onto anything else. Different tasks require different mind-sets, so focus on one thing at a time.