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“临终前你会后悔的事”的英文原版及由来
丛远新博主刚才和我提起一个最近被疯狂转载的“临终前你会后悔的事”的帖子，问我有没有看过英文原文。我还真读过！嗬嗬，本来说了等忙完再回来写，但想想这又不是什么春花秋月嘛，就码几个字吧，顺便把原文翻出来贴在这里。
“临终前你会后悔的事” （Regrets of the dying)是一位生活在澳大利亚（呵呵，不是米国）的叫Bonnie Ware的护士写的，最初发表在她的个人博客Inspiration and Chai- Warmth for the Soul and the Body里。Ware女士原来并不是护士，寻寻觅觅才发现照顾临终病人是能满足她心灵诉求的工作，Regrets of the Dying便是她工作多年下来的一些感想。 文章一出来就大受欢迎，大家争相登陆她的博客，媒体也开始广泛报道（我好像最初就是从美国雅虎的一个报道里读到的），后来Ware女士更把她的其他相关文章集结成书The Top Five Regrets of the Dying - A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing由Balboa Press于去年夏天出版发行。文章的英文原文如下（来自她的博客）：
People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.
When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.
2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.
Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.
临终前你会后悔的事（来自网络）：
最悔：“希望当初我有勇气过自己真正想要的生活”
第二：“希望当初我没有花这么多精力在工作上，错过了关注孩子成长的乐趣，错过了爱人温暖的陪伴”
第三：“希望当初能有勇气表达我的感受，而不是长期压抑愤怒与消极情绪”
第四：“希望当初我能和朋友保持联系，而没有因忙碌的生活忽略了曾经闪亮的友情”
第五：“希望当初我能让自己活得开心点，而不是习惯了掩饰，在人前堆起笑脸”
https://blog.sciencenet.cn/blog-627086-543682.html
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丛远新博主刚才和我提起一个最近被疯狂转载的“临终前你会后悔的事”的帖子，问我有没有看过英文原文。我还真读过！嗬嗬，本来说了等忙完再回来写，但想想这又不是什么春花秋月嘛，就码几个字吧，顺便把原文翻出来贴在这里。
“临终前你会后悔的事” （Regrets of the dying)是一位生活在澳大利亚（呵呵，不是米国）的叫Bonnie Ware的护士写的，最初发表在她的个人博客Inspiration and Chai- Warmth for the Soul and the Body里。Ware女士原来并不是护士，寻寻觅觅才发现照顾临终病人是能满足她心灵诉求的工作，Regrets of the Dying便是她工作多年下来的一些感想。 文章一出来就大受欢迎，大家争相登陆她的博客，媒体也开始广泛报道（我好像最初就是从美国雅虎的一个报道里读到的），后来Ware女士更把她的其他相关文章集结成书The Top Five Regrets of the Dying - A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing由Balboa Press于去年夏天出版发行。文章的英文原文如下（来自她的博客）：
REGRETS OF THE
DYING
People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.
When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.
2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.
Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.
临终前你会后悔的事（来自网络）：
最悔：“希望当初我有勇气过自己真正想要的生活”
第二：“希望当初我没有花这么多精力在工作上，错过了关注孩子成长的乐趣，错过了爱人温暖的陪伴”
第三：“希望当初能有勇气表达我的感受，而不是长期压抑愤怒与消极情绪”
第四：“希望当初我能和朋友保持联系，而没有因忙碌的生活忽略了曾经闪亮的友情”
第五：“希望当初我能让自己活得开心点，而不是习惯了掩饰，在人前堆起笑脸”
https://blog.sciencenet.cn/blog-627086-543682.html
上一篇：踏莎行－题陈湘明老师《西湖春雪》
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