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快乐与成功：从控制情绪开始（外一篇：非凡人生的七大秘诀)
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今天要推荐的第一篇，是关于如何调控自己情绪的美文。本人在博客空间也曾引用过王永庆的管理哲学（http://www.sciencenet.cn/m/user_content.aspx?id=373718 ），他指出人生最需要注意的就是自己的情绪。看来，我们得认真去反思：如何才能有效控制自己发自内心的情绪（无形化），不让情绪来控制自己（有形化，如表现在脸上，体现在行动中）。Ok，马上行动：
Today I will be master of my emotions（今天我学会控制情绪）
The tides advance; the tides recede. Winter goes and summer comes. Summer wanes and the cold increases. The sun rises; the sun sets. The moon is full; the moon is black. The birds arrive; the birds depart. Flowers bloom; flowers fade.Seeds are sown; harvests are reaped. All nature is a circle of moods and I am a part of nature and so, like the tides, my moods will rise; my moods will fall.
潮起潮落，冬去春来，夏末秋至，日出日落，月圆月缺，雁来雁往，花飞花谢，草长瓜熟，自然界万物都在循环往复的变化中，我也不例外，情绪会时好时坏。
It is one of nature's tricks, little understood, that each day I awaken with moods that have changed from yesterday. Yesterday's joy wilI become today's sadness; yet today's sadness will grow into tomorrow's joy. Inside me is a wheel, constantly turning from sadness to joy, from exultation to depression, from happiness to melancholy. Like the flowers, today's full bloom of joy will fade and wither into despondency, yet I will remember that as today's dead flower carries the seed of tomorrow's bloom so, too, does today's sadness carry the seed of tomorrow's joy.
这是大自然的玩笑，很少有人窥破天机。每天我醒来时，不再有旧日的心情。昨日的快乐变成今天的哀愁，今天的悲伤又转为明日的喜悦。我心中像一只轮子不停地转着，由乐而悲，由悲而喜，由喜而忧。这就好比花儿的变化，今天枯败的花儿蕴藏着明天新生的种子，今天的悲伤也预示着明天的快乐。
And how will I master these emotions so that each day will be productive? For unless my mood is right the day will be a failure. Trees and plants depend on the weather to flourish but I make my own weather, yea I transport it with me. If I bring rain and gloom and darkness and pessimism to my customers then they will react with rain and gloom and darkness and pessimism and they will purchase naught. If I bring joy and enthusiasm and brightness and laughter to my customers they will react with joy and enthusiasm and brightness and laughter and my weather will produce a harvest of sales and a granary of gold for me.
今天我学会控制情绪。 我怎样才能控制情绪，以使每天卓有成效呢？除非我心平气和，否则迎来的又将是失败的一天。花草树木，随着气候的变化而生长，但是我为自己创造天气。我要学会用自己的心灵弥补气候的不足。如果我为顾客带来风雨、忧郁、黑暗和悲观，那么他们也会报之于风雨、忧郁、黑暗和悲观，而他们什么也不会买。相反的，如果我们为顾客献上欢乐、喜悦、光明和笑声，他们也会报之以欢乐、喜悦、光明和笑声，我就能获得销售上的丰收，赚取成仓的金币（如果你是推销员，可以好好参阅）。
And how will I master my emotions so that every day is a happy day, and a productive one? I will learn this secret of the ages: Weak is he who permits his thoughts to control his actions; strong is he who forces his actions to control his thoughts. Each day, when I awaken, I will follow this plan of battle before I am captured by the forces of sadness, self-pity and failure－
我怎样才能控制情绪，让每天充满幸福和欢乐？我要学会这个千古秘诀：弱者任思绪控制行为，强者让行控制思绪。每天醒来当我被悲伤、自怜、失败的情绪包围时，我就这样与之对抗：
If I feel depressed I will sing.
If I feel sad I will laugh.
If I feel ill I will double my labor.
If I feel fear I will plunge ahead.
If I feel inferior I will wear new garments.
If I feel uncertain I will raise my voice.
If I feel poverty I will think of wealth to come.
If I feel incompetent I will remember past success.
If I feel insignificant I will remember my goals.
沮丧时，我引吭高歌。
悲伤时，我开怀大笑。
病痛时，我加倍工作。
恐惧时，我勇往直前。
自卑时，我换上新装。
不安时，我提高嗓声。
穷困潦倒时，我想象未来的富有。
力不从心时，我回想过去的成功。
自轻自贱时，我想想自己的目标。
Henceforth, I will know that only those with inferior ability can always be at their best, and I am not inferior. There will be days when I must IN THE WORLD constantly struggle against forces which would tear me down. Those such as despair and sadness are simple to recognize but there are others which approach with a smile and the hand of friendship and they can also destroy me. Against them, too, I must never relinquish control－
从今往后，我明白了，只有低能者才会江郎才尽，我并非低能者，我必须不断对抗那限些企图摧垮我的力量。失望与悲伤一眼就会被识破，而其它许多敌人是不易觉察的。它们往往面带微笑，却随时可能将我们摧垮。对它们，我们永远不能放松警惕。
If I become overconfident I will recall my failures.
If I overindulge I will think of past hungers.
If I feel complacency I will remember my competition.
If I enjoy moments of greatness I will remember moments of shame.
If I feel all-powerful I will try to stop the wind.
lf I attain great wealth I will remember one unfed mouth.
If I become overly proud I will remember a moment of weakness.
If I feel my skill is unmatched I will look at the stars.
自高自大时，我要追寻失败的记忆。
纵情得意时，我要记得挨饿的日子。
洋洋得意时，我要想想竞争的对手。
沾沾自喜时，不要忘了那忍辱的时刻。
自以为是时，看看自己能否让风驻步。
腰缠万贯时，想想那些食不果腹的人。
骄傲自满时，要想到自己怯懦的时候。
不可一世时，让我抬头，仰望群星。
And with this new knowledge I will also understand and recognize the moods of him on whom I call. I will make allowances for his anger and irritation of today for he knows not the secret of controlling his mind. I can withstand his arrows and insults for now I know that tomorrow he will change and be a joy to approach.
No longer will l judge a man on one meeting;no longer will I fail to call again tomorrow on he who meets me with hate today. This day he will not buy gold chariots for a penny, yet tomorrow he would exchange his home for a tree. My knowledge of this secret will be my key to great wealth.
有了这项新本领，我也更能体察别人的情绪变化。我宽容怒气冲冲的人，因为他尚未懂得控制自己的情绪，就可以忍受他的指责与辱骂，因为我知道明天他会改变，重新变得随和。 我不再只凭一面之交来判断一个人，也不再一时的怨恨与人绝交，今天不肯花一分钱买金蓬马车的人，明天也许会用全部家当换树苗。知道了这个秘密，我可以获得极大的财富。
Henceforth I will recognize and identify the mystery of moods in all mankind, and in me.From this moment I am prepared to control whatever personality awakes in me each day. I will master my moods through positive action and when I master my moods I will control my destiny.
I will become master of myself.
I wi
今天我学会控制情绪。
我从此领悟人类情绪的变化的奥秘。对于自己千变万化的个性，我不再听之任之，我知道，只有积极主动地控制情绪，才能掌握自己的命运。
我成为自己的主人。
我由此而变得伟大。
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控制好了自己的情绪，你就成功了一半。
当然，要成功，我们还有许多事情要做，也可以参考如下的几条成功秘诀：
Seven secrets to a great life（非凡人生的七大秘诀）
A great life doesn't happen by accident. A great life is the result of allocating your time, energy, thoughts, and hard work towards what you want your life to be.? Stop setting yourself up for stress and failure,and start setting up your life to support success and ease. A great life is the result of using the 24/7 you get in a creative and thoughtful way, instead of just what comes next. Customize these " secrets" to fit your own needs and style, and start creating your own great life today!
非凡的人生不是无根之木，无源之水。它需要合理分配自己的时间、精力、心思，为实现自己的生活目标而努力。走出忧虑和失败，全身心地迎接成功和安逸。不要得过且过，创造性地好好利用生命中的分分秒秒吧！让我们从今天开始，根据下面的“秘诀”和自身情况，创建属于自己的非凡人生。
1. S—Simplify. A great life is the result of simplifying your life. People often misinterpret what simplify means. It's not a way to remove work from your life.When you focus on simplifying your life, you free up energy and time for the work that you enjoy and the purpose for which you are here. In order to create a great life, you will have to make room for it in yours first.
1、化繁为简。非凡的人生源于简单的生活。人们往往误解了简单的含义，即不参加工作。当生活真正简化，你就会有时间和精力从事喜欢的工作，并为之奋斗。创建非凡的人生，首先要有自己的空间。
2. E—Effort. A great life is the result of your best effort. Creating a great life requires that you make some adjustments. It may mean reevaluating how you spend your time, or choosing to spend your money in a different way. It may mean looking for new ways to spend your energy that coincide with your particular definition of a great life. Life will reward your best effort.
2、不懈努力。非凡的人生源于个人的苦心经营。这可能需要重新分配时间，或调整理财方式：用新的方式把精力投向能引领非凡人生的地方去。有付出就会有回报。
3. C—Create Priorities. A great life is the result of creating priorities.It's easy to spend your days just responding to the next thing that gets your attention, instead of intentionally using the time, energy and money you have in a way that's important to you. Focus on removing the obstacles that get in the way of you making sure you are honoring your priorities.
3、分清主次。非凡的人生源于分清主次。不要被琐碎的事所吸引，而撇开重要之事，不然，时间、精力和金钱便会浪费。要想达到目的，就要善于梳理头绪，扫清障碍，分清轻重缓急。
4. R—Reserves. A great life is the result of having reserves—reserves of things, time, space, energy, money. With reserves, you acquire far more than you need-not 6 months living expenses, but 5 years worth; not 15 minutes of free time, 1 day. Reserves are important because they reduce the fear of consequences, and that allows you to make decisions based on what you really want instead of what the fear decides for you.
4、有备无患。非凡的人生源于懂得储存--储存物品、时间、空间、精力和金钱。那样，获得就会远远多于所期望的--就会得到五年的生活费，而不是六个月的；一整天的闲暇时间，而不是15分钟。储存能减少顾虑，从而使决定不受限制，思想不会犹豫。
5. E—Eliminate distractions. A great life is the result of eliminating distractions. Up to 75% of your mental energy can be tied up in things that draining and distracting you. Eliminating distractions can be a difficult concept to many people, since they haven't really considered that there is another way to live. Look around at someone's life you admire. What do they do that you would like to incorporate into your own life ? Ask them how they did it. Find ways to free up mental energy for things that are more important to you.
5、专心致志。非凡的人生源于专注。做事三心二意，会耗费一个人75%以上的精力。很多人不知道如何清除杂念，因为他们从未想过换种方式生活。看看周围那些令你羡慕的人的生活吧！看自己能从他们身上学到些什么？向他们请教，寻求专注的方式，把精力集中到真正重要的事情上。
6. T—Thoughts. A great life is the result of controlling your thoughts so that you accept and allow for the possibility that it actually can happen to you! belief in the outcome will directly dictate how successful you are. Motivated people have specific goals and look for ways to achieve them. Believing there is a solution to the same old problems you encounter year after year is vitally important creating a life that you love.
6、坚定信念。非凡的人生源于信心十足。信心直接决定胜负成败。有动力的人目标明确，并会想尽一切办法去实现。生活中会反复遇到很多问题，相信这些问题终会解决，是创造美好生活的关键。
7. S—Start. A great life is the result of starting. There's the old saying everyone's familiar with “a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”In order to even move from the couch to the refrigerator, you have to start. There’s no better time to start than today. Don't wait for a raise,or until the kids get older or the weather is better. Today, right now, is the right day to start to take a step in the direction of your heart's desires. It's what you do TODAY that will make a difference in your life tomorrow.
7、立刻行动。非凡人生源于行动。有句大家熟悉的古谚，“千里之行始于足下”。即使再小的事情，诸如从沙发走到冰箱前，也需要亲自行动。从今天开始行动吧，不要再找借口，说等涨工资了，等孩子长大了，或者等天气好了再说吧。从今天开始，去努力实现心中的梦想，这是最好的时机。只有这样，才能开创美好的明天。
【老戴感言】
其实，成功就在我们身边。需要说明的是，我们的成功，可能不同于世俗的成功（尤其是那些拜金主义者追求的成功）。只要我们每天努力一点点，我们就是成功的人，我们就是快乐的人。
推荐的文章，改编于：
章华 编译. 每天读一点英文：那些给我勇气的句子. 西安：陕西师范大学出版社. 2009.
(English Name: Everyday English Snack: The Words that Encouraged me)
顺便背诵一句：
Life was like a box of chocolate, you never know what you're gonna get.
人生就像一盒巧克力，你永远不知道下一块是什么味道。（Forrest Gump）
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