父辈的八条建议

https://www.npr.org/2023/06/18/1181748285/fathers-day-quotes

此文最初发表于 2023 年 6 月 18 日。

为了在 6 月 16 日星期日的父亲节向我们的父亲致敬，我们将分享父亲的建议——这些都是我们的听众与我们分享的。

这些父辈的智慧包含了最好的建议：让我们铭记在心的实用技巧，而不仅仅是记得在寒冷的日子带上外套或学习如何开车。不过，这些“小事”也很重要。

祝所有的父亲 父亲节快乐——准父亲、已故父亲和像父亲一样的人物——愿你在父亲节庆祝父亲的身份，无论这对你意味着什么。

1. 学习你非常喜欢的东西

父亲说：“尽可能多地了解你非常喜欢的东西，没有人能从你身上夺走它。”

我做到了——而且在电视工程领域拥有了出色的职业生涯。

—Clifford Whitney

2. 留一些回旋余地

我父亲告诉我，在家具完全组装好之前，不要拧紧组装家具上的螺丝。当时，我认为这是为了给我留出一些回旋余地，以防我用错了零件。事后看来，这也适用于重大人生决定。做出决定，但在确保一切都“对齐”并处于正确位置之前，不要拧紧螺丝。

—Pam Goodman

3. 你有选择（办法）

我父亲说，我们唯一无法解决的就是死亡。对于其他一切，总有办法。这一直在帮助我正确看待问题，并提醒我，即使某件事感觉完全无望，也总有出路。

—Krissia Keck

4. 不要让恐惧引导你

“永远不要害怕做你想做的事情，除非它不安全、不道德或会伤害他人。” 这是我从父亲那里学到的最重要的一课。我仍然努力践行他的明智之言，我相信这些话对我大有裨益。

—Frannie Doonan

5. 多穿几层衣服

我父亲在去户外足球比赛前，会说：“如果你不确定穿多暖和，就多穿点衣服。你可以随时脱掉它们，但如果没有它们，就不能穿上。”

—Brian Klawun

6. 开车灯

当我学开车的时候，我父亲告诉我，如果我不知道是否要打开车灯，就应该打开。我认为这适用于驾驶和人生。如果你不知道是否要做某件事，只要没有坏处，那就去做吧。

—Elizabeth Broderick

7. 不要为小事烦恼

我父亲总是说：“你无法控制生活中的大多数事情。你无法控制天气、交通或其他人。但你总是可以控制自己的态度。” 

—Gordon Granger

8. 结交新朋友

当我因为职业（我们是军人），在婚后孤独时，父亲的回答是：“试着结交新朋友。接受所有邀请。如果你向新朋友和新体验敞开心扉，你永远不知道会发生什么。”他还认为偶尔即兴拜访亲密朋友并不失礼。这种自发性有时会在友谊中得到回报。

—Emily Walls Ray

8 pieces of life advice from dads

https://www.npr.org/2023/06/18/1181748285/fathers-day-quotes

This story was originally published on June 18, 2023. 

To honor the dads in our lives for Father's Day, Sunday, June 16, we're sharing life advice from dads — as shared with us by our listeners. 

The wisdom from these dads encompasses the best of life advice: practical tips that stick with us that somehow aren't just about remembering to bring a jacket on cold days or learning how to drive. Though, outerwear and merging correctly are important too. 

Happy Father's Day to all the dads — dads-to-be, dads who are gone, and dad-like figures — may you spend Father's Day celebrating fatherhood, whatever that means to you.

1. Learn what you love

Dad said: "Learn everything you can about what you love, and no one can take that from you."

I did — and have had a wonderful career in television engineering. —Clifford Whitney

2. Leave some wiggle room

My dad told me not to tighten the screws on furniture that needed to be assembled until it was fully put together. At the time, I thought that was to give me some wiggle room to align everything in case I had used the wrong part. In hindsight, it was about major life decisions. Make your decision, but don't tighten the screws until you're sure everything is aligned and in the right place. —Pam Goodman

3. You have options

My dad says the only thing we can't fix is death. For everything else, there is always a way. This has always helped me put problems into perspective and remind me that even if something feels totally hopeless, there is always a way out. —Krissia Keck

4. Don't let fear guide you

"Never be afraid to do something you want to do unless it is unsafe, immoral or will hurt someone else." This was the most important lesson I received from my dad. I still try to live by his wise words and I believe they have served me well. —Frannie Doonan

5. Wear layers

From my dad before going to an outdoor football game: "If you aren't sure of how warm to dress, wear extra clothes. You can always take them off, but if you don't have them, you can't put them on." —Brian Klawun

6. Use your headlights

When I was learning how to drive, my dad told me that if I ever wonder whether or not to put my headlights on, I should just do it. I think this applies to driving and to life. If you wonder whether or not to do something but there's no actual downside, just do it. —Elizabeth Broderick

7. Don't sweat the small stuff

My dad always said: "You can't control most things in life. You can't control the weather, traffic or other people. But you can always control your attitude." —Gordon Granger

8. Make new friends

When I was a lonely, young married transplant due to career choices (we were military), Daddy's response was: "Try to make new friends. Accept all invitations. You never know what might develop if you open yourself up to new people and experiences." He also believed occasional impromptu drop-in visits to close friends were not rude. Spontaneity sometimes pays off in friendships. —Emily Walls Ray