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I happen to read by accident on line an article with this title and found it very useful. I have transcribed it here since the URL given does not seem to work. Trust you will find it useful too.
Hi, it's Brandon. Do you have critics and haters? Well, we all do. You know you’re doing something significant because you get people hating on what you’re doing. Whether they think you’re too loud and vocal on social media. Or you’re being criticized for how much passion you put into something you love. Having haters and getting some harsh criticism are two signs that you’re doing something worth a damn. There’s a quote that goes, "If you’re not pissing someone off, you’re not doing anything important." Another one goes like, "You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life." And yet another one that goes, "To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing." Here’s the thing. People have wildly different, deeply-seated opinions on just about anything. And if you’re attracting some criticism, that means you’re pushing one type of opinion or idea so far you’re making people who have different opinions than yours uncomfortable. Granted, some people will think that’s a bad thing. But if you think about it, if you’re getting attention from people who have opposing beliefs and opinions, you’re also attracting the people who share your own beliefs and opinions. You’re actually attracting the right people while repelling the wrong people Which is a good thing. If you’re in sales or marketing, having the attention of the right people, the ones who are your true, loyal fans, will bring you more revenue. If you’re an artist, actor, or musician, having the undivided attention of your fans (and the hates giving you some free publicity) will skyrocket your career. As opposed to being ordinary, being safe, and being just another person with no significant trait whatsoever. If you’re not compelling enough, you’re nothing. That’s why confidence is so important. Because if you’re confident in yourself, you won’t be as bothered by criticism as regular people. It doesn’t matter to you if someone sends you hate mail. You don’t care if a few people "dislike" your rendition of a famous pop song on YouTube. Because you’re also attracting true, loyal fans like a magnet. Now, simply telling you to fend off criticism isn’t helpful on its own. Here’s how to handle them just like how top-performers handle criticism. LIONS DON’T CARE ABOUT THE OPINION OF SHEEP The first thing you have to remember is that one person’s opinion is THEIR opinion. And it doesn’t mean everyone else in the world has the same opinion. And lions don’t give a damn about the opinion of sheep. So embed that idea into your mind. One person’s opinion is just that… their opinion. It doesn’t mean it’s a fact. It doesn’t mean they’re right and you’re wrong. IS IT REALLY JUST CRITICISM? Another thing you can do is to quickly determine if they’re hating just to hate (because, haters gonna hate), because they’re jealous, or because they’re actually trying to give you constructive criticism and they just suck at it. If they’re just hating just to hate, then it’s best you don’t spend a drop of energy on them. Ignore them completely, or just acknowledge them and send them on their way. A simple, "Okay. I get what you’re saying. You have a point. However, I guess I disagree because…" Or even simpler… "Okay, I get you. You have a point there. Thanks." Then send them off. Spending time arguing and defending yourself only makes you look less confident and weak. It also shows insecurity because you can’t accept that people can have different opinions than you. There’s also a quote that goes, "He who angers you controls you." In a world of trolls and haters, be unbreakable. GO HEAD TO HEAD Now, if you can determine that they’re not simply hating just to hate, and they’re actually trying to give you advice, or they’re persuading you to cross over to accept their beliefs over yours by proving you’re wrong, you can choose whether to accept it and let go, or face them head on. If you DO choose to go head to head, it’s never wise to be the one who goes crazy on the attack. It will only make you look like a loser desperate for attention. Stick to logic and facts. Never lose your cool. When you go against someone’s beliefs or opinions, get ready to attract some spectators. That’s fine. Showcase your side and as much as possible, without crossing the line and attacking them personally. The point isn’t to convince the other person who’s right or wrong. Because there’s always two (or more) sides to the argument. The goal here is to just show how knowledgeable and sure you are of your beliefs so you will attract like-minded people who are watching the show. Remember this, nobody has to fail for you to succeed. BE UNBREAKABLE Criticism and haters are normal. It’s a part of life. When you’re doing something you love, something you’re passionate about, you are bound to step on someone else’s beliefs and opinions on the matter. You do not need to destroy them. You just have to prove you know what you’re doing. Then fans and followers will flock to you. Let’s do this. To Life And Love, Brandon |
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