绝症患者离世前震撼心灵的话语

王书宗 译

人生完全取决于我们从哪个角度来看。我们也许看到一个人坐拥着完美的人生和一切，却从不知道他真正经历过什么。我们生活中，常常会为一些小事花费无穷的时间和精力去搏斗和发愁。但很不幸的是，不到创伤性的事情落到我们头上的时候，我们不会意识到那是些小事。

最近，一个加州的年轻人身患绝症，医生给他的诊断看起来一点也不妙。他的癌症发现得太晚，医生说他只有几个月能活在这个世上。这是那种让你身处绝境而重新思考人生的时刻。于是这个二十四岁的年轻人决定分享他对人生的体验，分享给那些还将活在这个世上的人们。

这个年轻人写下这封信，读给那些愿花时间倾听的人听。在这封信里，他写下了一些他很想完成的事情，也写下了一些建议供人们倾听。好好看一下这封信吧，在你的生活中把这位绝症患者的话记在心上。

 “今年我只有二十四岁，但已经戴上了我人生的最后一条领带。它是几个月后我的葬礼上，我即将佩戴的那一条。它也许和我的西装革履并不搭，但我觉得这种情况下它再合适不过了。 

癌症查出得太晚，都给不了我哪怕是一点点对长远生活的希望。但我意识到，对于死亡，最重要的事情是，确保在你离开这个世界的时候，她因为你的存在和贡献而比你之前的那个更好。到目前为止，我的生活方式，我的存在，或者准确地说，我的失去，都算不了什么，因为我活了这么些年，没有做什么有影响力的事情。

以前，有很多事情充塞着我的头脑。但当我知道我的人生所剩无几的时候，什么重要什么不重要，一下子变得异常清晰。所以我给你们写下这些话，是出于一个小小的自私的理由。我是想通过和你们分享下面这些我领悟到的东西，让我的人生变得有些意义：

--- 不要浪费时间去做你不喜欢做的事情。显而易见，你不可能在你不喜欢做的事情上获得成功。耐心，激情，恒心，这些只有在你热爱的事情上才能轻松做到。

--- 害怕别人的评论是愚蠢的。恐惧会削弱你，会使你瘫痪。如果你放任不管，它会一天天地变得越来越糟糕，直到有一天把你榨干为止。要听从你内心的召唤，并和她一起前行。有些人也许会说你太疯狂，但有些人会认为你是一个传奇。   

--- 要掌控好你的人生。对落到你头上的事情要担负起责任。要遏制住不良习气，尽量过一个健康的生活。要找到一个给你快乐的体育运动。更为重要的是，不要拖延。要让你的人生在你做出的决策下成型，而非那些你没有做出的决定。

 --- 要感恩你周围的人们。你的亲朋好友永远是力量和爱的不竭的源泉。正因为如此，你不要认为这些亲情友谊是理所当然的。

对这些简单顿悟的重要性，我很难用语言充分完全地表达。但是我还是希望你们能倾听那些经历过时间宝贵性的人们的意见。

我并不沮丧，因为我认识到我人生最后的一段时日变得很有意义。我唯一遗憾的是，我看不到那些即将发生的很多酷事，像人工智能的诞生，或者依朗-马斯克的下一个精彩项目。我同样也希望叙利亚和乌克兰的战争尽早结束。

我们对我们身体的健康和完美关注得太厉害，以至于直到死亡将近，我们才意识到，我们的身体不过就是一个盒子---一个让我们向这个世界投送我们秉性、思想、信仰和抱负的邮包。如果这个盒子里，没有任何东西可以改变这个世界，那么它消失的时候就不算什么。我相信我们都具备潜能，但是需要极大的勇气才能把她变为现实。

你可以度过一个浮萍般随波逐流的人生，被各种偶然事件所左右着，一天一天地、一小时一小时地失去你的人生。或者，你可以选择为信仰战斗，用奋斗写下属于你的伟大的人生故事。我希望你能做出正确的选择。 

要在这个世界上留下你的记号。要过一个意义的生活，不管你怎么去定义。向着她前进。我们将来要离开的这个地方，是一个美丽的处所，在这里一切都有可能。但我们并不会永远待在这里。我们的生命在这个美丽的小小星球上，是一束短暂的火花，她正在以难以置信的速度，飞向浩渺的、黑暗的、未知的宇宙深处。所以，带着你的热爱去快乐地生活，让她变得有趣，也变得富有意义。

谢谢！”

附上原文（英语的语言很流畅优美）：

Powerful Advice From A Dying Man

_{Apr 1, 2016 By HoustonBarber}

Life is all a matter of perspective. We maylook at someone and think they've got the perfect life and everything figuredout, but we never know what that person is really going through. At the same time, we spend countless amounts of energystruggling and stressing over the small stuff in life, and unfortunately, it'snot usually until something traumatic happens that we realize this.

Recently, a young man in California was faceto face with a life-threatening illness, and his prognosis did not look good.His cancer was diagnosed too late and doctors only gave him months to live.This is the sort of thing that will put your life into a harsh perspective, and the 24-year-old wanted to share his new outlook onlife with those he would be leaving behind.

So, the young man began to write a letter andaddressed it to anyone who would take the time to read it. In the letter, hewrote the things he wished he would have done, and some pieces of advice tothose who would be willing to listen. Read the full letter below and take thedying man's words to heart as you go about your life.   

“I am only 24 yearsold, yet I have actually already chosen my last tie. It’s the one that Iwill wear on my funeral a few months from now. It may not match my suit,but I think it’s perfect for the occasion.

The cancer diagnosis came too late to give me at least atenuous hope for a long life, but I realized that the most important thingabout death is to ensure that you leave this world a little better than it was before you existed with your contributions. The way I’ve lived my life so far,my existence or more precisely the loss of it, will not matter because I havelived without doing anything impactful.

Before, there were so many things that occupied my mind.When I learned how much time I had left, however, it became clear which thingsare really important. So, I am writing to you for a selfish reason. I want togive meaning to my life by sharing with you what I have realized:

* Don’t waste your time on work that you don’tenjoy. It is obvious that you cannot succeed in something that you don’t like.Patience, passion, and dedication come easily only when you love what you do.

* It’s stupid to be afraid of others’ opinions. Fear weakensand paralyzes you. If you let it, it can grow worse and worse every day until thereis nothing left of you, but a shell of yourself. Listen to your inner voice andgo with it. Some people may call you crazy, but some may even think you're alegend.

* Take control of your life. Take full responsibility for the things that happen to you. Limit bad habitsand try to lead a healthier life. Find a sport that makes you happy. Most ofall, don’t procrastinate. Let your life be shaped by decisions you made, not bythe ones you didn’t.

* Appreciate the people around you. Your friends andrelatives will always be an infinite source of strength and love. That is whyyou shouldn’t take them for granted.

It is difficult for me to fully express my feelings aboutthe importance of these simple realizations, but I hope that you will listen tosomeone who has experienced how valuable time is.

I’m not upset because I understand that the last days of mylife have become meaningful. I only regret that I will not be able to see a lotof cool stuff that should happen soon like the creation of AI, or Elon Musk’snext awesome project. I also hope that the war in Syria and Ukraine will endsoon.

We care so much about the health and integrity of our bodythat until death, we don’t notice that the body is nothing more than a box - a parcel for delivering our personality, thoughts, beliefs and intentions to thisworld. If there is nothing in this box that can change the world, then itdoesn’t matter if it disappears. I believe that we all have potential, but italso takes a lot of courage to realize it.

You can float through a life created by circumstances,missing day after day, hour after hour. Or, you can fight for what you believein and write the great story of your life. I hope you will make the rightchoice.

Leave a mark in this world. Have a meaningful life,whatever definition it has for you. Go towards it. The place we are leaving isa beautiful playground, where everything is possible. Yet, we are not hereforever. Our life is a short spark in this beautiful little planet that flieswith incredible speed to the endless darkness of the unknown universe. So,enjoy your time here with passion. Make it interesting. Make it count!Thank you!”

Please SHARE this powerful message with yourfriends and loved ones.

H/T: Reddit