1. Give yourself permission to be human. When we accept emotions — such as fear, sadness, or anxiety — as natural, we are more likely to overcome them. Rejecting our emotions, positive or negative, leads to frustration and unhappiness.

2. Happiness lies at the intersection between pleasure and meaning. Whether at work or at home, the goal is to engage in activities that are both personally significant and enjoyable. When this is not feasible, make sure you have happiness boosters, moments throughout the week that provide you with both pleasure and meaning.

3. Keep in mind that happiness is mostly dependent on our state of mind, not on our status or the state of our bank account. Barring extreme circumstances, our level of well being is determined by what we choose to focus on (the full or the empty part of the glass) and by our interpretation of external events. For example, do we view failure as catastrophic, or do we see it as a learning opportunity?

4. Simplify! We are, generally, too busy, trying to squeeze in more and more activities into less and less time. Quantity influences quality, and we compromise on our happiness by trying to do too much.

5. Remember the mind-body connection. What we do — or don't do — with our bodies influences our mind. Regular exercise, adequate sleep, and healthy eating habits lead to both physical and mental health.

6. Express gratitude, whenever possible. We too often take our lives for granted. Learn to appreciate and savor the wonderful things in life, from people to food, from nature to a smile.

这本书之所以对我触动很大，是因为我大部分时候很不幸地扮演着他描述的前三种人，而因为最近两年的一些经历忽然意识到这样下去后果严重，但苦于找不到出路，所以看到这本书的时候有一种豁然开朗的感觉，马上搜藏起来，以时时督促自己。

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“风雨过后不一定有美好的天空

 不是天晴就会有彩虹

 所以你一脸无辜不代表你懵懂 

 不是所有感情都会有始有终 

 孤独尽头不一定惶恐 

 可生命总免不了最初的一阵痛 ”

-----王菲 《天上人间》