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九个日常习惯让你活的更开心

已有 5334 次阅读 2012-12-29 09:27 |个人分类:乱弹杂谈|系统分类:观点评述|关键词:9,Daily,Habits,That,Will,Make,You,Happier| That, Will, Make, daily, Habits

   

    今天偶然看到一篇小文,觉得不错,不敢独享。该文章的标题为:9 Daily Habits That Will Make You Happier”(点击阅读英文原文)根据该文的主要内容,结合自己的一些个人生活体验,成此小文。快乐是衡量一个人成功的真正指标,金钱不是,CNS文章不是,大房子、高职位更不是。让其他人开心是成功的最高境界,然而,如果你自己不开心,就几乎不可能让其他人开心。如果您现在活的不爽,那么您在自己的日常生活中如能针对如下九点做相应调整,会立马提升你的生活开心指数,让自己活的更爽。

1.      充满期待开始每一天。如果生活真有什么真谛的话,那也经常取决于你自己的期望。所以,当你每天早上起床时,不妨先想想:“今天有什么好事/高兴事要发生?”。猜猜看是什么事?你很可能猜对了!

2.      花时间做计划、优先处理最重要或最需要处理的事。最常见的生活压力的来源是总想着自己有太多的工作要做。如其一筹莫展,不如先挑一个你今天就能搞定、并能使你更接近您的生活中最高目标的事,选中这件事,先搞定它!

3.      给您碰到的每个人一个礼物。这里所说的“礼物”,并非是指包装精美的正式礼物。您的礼物可以是您的一个微笑、一个感谢、一个鼓励、一个礼貌的姿势、甚至是礼貌性的点点头。遇到一个乞丐,永远不要什么也不给就走过去,这一点估计不符合我国的国情,我国的山寨版的乞丐太多了,整的人们的同情心不断下降。

4.      远离政党性或政治性争论。有关政治和宗教方面的争论永远没有一个“正确”答案,但是这种争论却可以使朋友间、同事间的交谈不欢而散,对此,估计科学网上的多数男人都深有体会,因为女人们对这些话题一般不感兴趣。

5.      假定人人都有好心肠。你我都不是神,都不能看透人心,所以我们并不能真的明白别人做什么事的背后原因。如果经一些自己臆想的不良看法甚至邪恶想法来推测其他人的貌似奇怪的行为,只能使自己的生活徒增悲催。反之,则使自己的生活和谐,倘若人人如此做,不就是和谐社会了吗?!国内的骗子太多,大家都相互防着,相互戒备,都先假定对方是骗子或者不怀好意,如此这样,导致整个社会大家的幸福指数都不高,不管你地位多高,多有钱。

6.      好吃、慢吃,或者说吃好、吃慢。有人说:人生苦短。所以要经常犒劳一下自己,不需多,“少吃多甜”,吃/喝自己最喜欢的,细细品尝,小口慢啜,享受吃/喝的过程。三两口下肚,什么味道都没吃出来,吃东西就不是享受了。

7.      别太看重结果。快乐最大的敌人是担心,这种担心源自过度专注于自己并不能控制的事情上。一旦你开始干什么事,结果往往不是你所能控制的。搞科研的尤其如此,如果结果都是自己可预测、可控制的,一定不是科研,或者是造假。所以要专注于自己手上的工作,而非可能发生的奇怪结果。比如现在又要开始一年一度的申请国家自然科学基金的时候,在您将申请书投出去后,结果就基本不是你能控制的了,如果只是整天担心申请挂了之后的悲催结果,那生活还能有何幸福可言?!

8.      关掉“背景”电视。很多家庭在做其它事情事情时,习惯将自家的电视开着作为“背景噪音”。电视的播放,只能使你对自己目前的生活不满意,直接导致你买更多的自己未必用得着的东西。所以,为什么要让电视节目使自己变成一个无脑的消费者呢?

9.      带着感恩的心结束每天的生活。在你上床睡觉前,写下至少一件自己开心的事。这样的开心事可以小到逗笑了一个孩子,也可以大到中了一百万的彩票(当然这样的“大”喜事,绝大多数人一生都没有运气碰到),不管是什么,都以感恩的心对待每一天,因为过去的一天不会再来了。

喜欢这9点?!现在就赶快行动吧、写点评论吧,让别人开心,现在就可以使自己更开心!!

 

另附英文原文:

9 Daily Habits That Will Make You Happier

Geoffrey James

Happiness is the only true measure of personal success. Making other people happy is the highest expression of success, but it's almost impossible to make others happy if you're not happy yourself.

With that in mind, here are nine small changes that you can make to your daily routine that, if you're like most people, will immediately increase the amount of happiness in your life:

1. Start each day with expectation.

If there's any big truth about life, it's that it usually lives up to (or down to) your expectations. Therefore, when you rise from bed, make your first thought: "something wonderful is going to happen today." Guess what? You're probably right.

2. Take time to plan and prioritize.

The most common source of stress is the perception that you've got too much work to do. Rather than obsess about it, pick one thing that, if you get it done today, will move you closer to your highest goal and purpose in life. Then do that first.

3. Give a gift to everyone you meet.

I'm not talking about a formal, wrapped-up present. Your gift can be your smile, a word of thanks or encouragement, a gesture of politeness, even a friendly nod. And never pass beggars without leaving them something. Peace of mind is worth the spare change.

4. Deflect partisan conversations.

Arguments about politics and religion never have a "right" answer but they definitely get people all riled up over things they can't control. When such topics surface, bow out by saying something like: "Thinking about that stuff makes my head hurt."

5. Assume people have good intentions.

Since you can't read minds, you don't really know the "why" behind the "what" that people do. Imputing evil motives to other people's weird behaviors adds extra misery to life, while assuming good intentions leaves you open to reconciliation.

6. Eat high quality food slowly.

Sometimes we can't avoid scarfing something quick to keep us up and running. Even so, at least once a day try to eat something really delicious, like a small chunk of fine cheese or an imported chocolate. Focus on it; taste it; savor it.

7. Let go of your results.

The big enemy of happiness is worry, which comes from focusing on events that are outside your control. Once you've taken action, there's usually nothing more you can do. Focus on the job at hand rather than some weird fantasy of what might happen.

8. Turn off "background" TV.

Many households leave their TVs on as "background noise" while they're doing other things. The entire point of broadcast TV is to make you dissatisfied with your life so that you'll buy more stuff. Why subliminally program yourself to be a mindless consumer?

9. End each day with gratitude.

Just before you go to bed, write down at least one wonderful thing that happened. It might be something as small as a making a child laugh or something as huge as a million dollar deal. Whatever it is, be grateful for that day because it will never come again.

 

(王守业写于2012122日,文首图片链接自网络,感谢作者。本文引用地址:http://blog.sciencenet.cn/blog-563591-647440.html )



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