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This speaker, LuxNarayan, in a 8 minutes TED talk explains what he learned. http://www.ted.com/talks/lux_narayan_what_i_learned_from_2_000_obituaries?utm_source=newsletter_weekly_2017-03-04&utm_campaign=newsletter_weekly&utm_medium=email&utm_content=talk_of_the_week_button
Summarizing in one phrase of the 2000 lives of the famous and not famous featured in NY times during 2015-16:
That makes a life well lived.