I don’t know, but I agree with what Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote in On Friendship in 1841:” In a friend, what I am looking for is not a mush of concessions, a person who would agree with everything that I say; rather what I’m looking for is a beautiful enemy, a person who will challenge me, who will push me, who will help me in my apprenticeship to the truth.”

This is also what I do to my friends: challenge them, push them, as well as help them. So, I will not always say nice things to my true friends, but I can say nice things all the time to those I don’t care...I am lucky enough to have a few friends before whom I can say anything in my heart, without thinking about too much.